Social Anxiety Disorder (S.A.D.) is painful, isolating, and destructive to people’s lives. How can psychotherapy help someone who is suffering in this intensely? Here’s three ways therapy can help:
Therapy Addresses Fears, Worries and Negative Beliefs
For example, if you’re a person that is afraid of being judged and talked about behind your back, doesn’t it make sense that you would avoid people? Who wants to be judged! If you avoid social situations all or a lot of the time, there’s little to no opportunity to challenge those thoughts and belief systems….hence staying stuck in the problem.
Therapy can help challenge those thoughts a little bit at a time, by helping you to consider alternatives. However, it’s not nearly as simple as “Don’t think that,” or “That’s not true,” or “Here, think this other, more positive thought.”
Instead, therapy can be a bit like putting some of your beliefs on trial in a courtroom. There’s a “prosecuting attorney” presenting all of the evidence that your belief is not true. Then there’s a “defense attorney” presenting all of the evidence that the belief is true. The belief is often not found to be “true” or “untrue,” but rather that there is often a morsel of truth mixed in with a whole lot of untruth. The two sides reach a “settlement” or middle ground and come up with an “alternative” or more “balanced” belief.
Help With Taking Risks
Risk taking is extremely important with all forms of anxiety, because the only way to conquer fear is to eventually face it. However, going at that alone without help can be very overwhelming. Many people who we’ve talked to who try to take risks on their own make some very key mistakes such as: taking too large a risk, taking risks with “unsafe” people, and taking risks before addressing their negative beliefs, so the results are evaluated through that grid. All of these mistakes can make for a “no-win” situation.
A therapist can be somewhat like a coach, preparing you in every way possible to achieve success. To explain, a therapist can help you plan out risks or “experiments,” in a safe, slow, and manageable manner. Your therapist can help you identify your beliefs before you take a risk, and point out how you might be filtering the results of your risk through that grid. If a risk or an “experiment” doesn’t go well, a therapist can help you to figure out why, and what adjustments to make.
Relationship With The Therapist
Your relationship with your therapist is a key, important social “situation.” Your therapist is going to be concerned about building a safe, trusting relationship with you. When you have a good relationship with a therapist, then you can allow your fears to arise within the safety of that relationship, and you can take risks to address some of those fears.
Some of the people we work with who have Social Anxiety Disorder are afraid of writing in front of other people. Therefore, these clients always have their checks ready before coming into a session so that they don’t have to write in front of their therapist. It’s a big deal when a person with this fear sits in front of us and writes out their check! It might be a healing moment, or it might be a chance for us to process in the “here and now” what it’s like to take that risk.
You can probably guess that therapy is a lot of hard work, and it certainly is. However, the payoff can be tremendous. Don’t go it alone, schedule a free consultation today!
